6 Little Green Flags That You’ve Found A Keeper

There’s no shortage of articles online and in lifestyle magazines about dating red flags: If she’s rude to the waitstaff or your Uber driver, it’s a big red flag. If he spends half the date talking about his “crazy ex,” run for the hills.We’re all well-versed in the warning signs of a bad partner, but…

6 Little Green Flags That You’ve Found A Keeper

There’s no shortage of articles online and in lifestyle magazines about dating red flags: If she’s rude to the waitstaff or your Uber driver, it’s a big red flag. If he spends half the date talking about his “crazy ex,” run for the hills.We’re all well-versed in the warning signs of a bad partner, but what are the signs that you’ve found a keeper? We asked marriage therapists across the country to share a few little green flags that you’ve struck luck with your new boo. See what they said below.1. They’re the first person you want to share good — or bad — news withYou just got promoted or called out in a meeting by your boss for a project well done? Your first thought is to call your S.O. You just heard that your team might be impacted by upcoming layoffs? You call them about that too. Whether it’s good or bad news, your partner is always a reliable sounding board, said Ryan Howes, a psychologist in Pasadena, California.“When you’ve found a person you consider your lifelong mate, you want to share all the best and worst news with them because you know they’ll celebrate with you or provide the support to get through the rough times,” he said. “If they’re your first go-to with this news, it means you feel safe to share the most intimate parts of yourself with them.”2. You’re the real, authentic ‘you’ around themChris Rock once said of dating, “When you meet somebody for the first time, you’re not meeting them, you’re meeting their representative.” When you’re with someone you gel with, you drop the facade and act pretty much exactly as you do when you’re alone: You’re comfortable at home with them, scarfing down a burrito from the taqueria down the street with reckless abandon. You snort when you laugh. You go long with your rant after a rough day at work, knowing there will be zero judgement. You’re the real you, not “date representative” you.“You don’t have to try too hard to impress them because you know they adore you no matter what,” said Shannon Chavez, a psychologist and sex therapist in Los Angeles. “You can be hanging out in your pajamas all day and they remind you how beautiful you are and how much they love spending time with you. They notice the small things that are truly who you are an
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